Yeah.... but......

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"Yeah BUT........." (yeah, but I'm watching TV, or Yeah, but I'm busy, or Yeah but, I want to play a videogame, all traslated to mean, I don't WANT to)</div> <bR> <div> When they were little, I created the Bunny Yeah But......... This is a mythical creature, not as rare as say, the Unicorn, who's entire purpose in being is to prevent anything from every getting done. It's entire lifespan is spent avoiding doing something that is necessary.</div> <bR> <div> "Yeah But" can actually be translated to: "I hear you but I don't want to......... (fill in the blank)"</div> <bR> <div> It's a furry, long eared excuse not to do something.</div> <bR> <div> example:</div> <bR> <div>     "I'm miserable living here, I hate the house, the neighborhood, I can't make good money, and the kids are afraid to go to school".</div> <bR> <div>                  OK, SOUNDS LIKE IT'S TIME TO MOVE.</div> <bR> <div>    "But I can't, I don't have any money and I can't get a job".</div> <bR> <div>                  YOU CAN'T?, WELL, MAYBE IT'S TIME TO START SAVING WITH THE GOAL OF MOVING, YOU SOUND PRETTY UNHAPPY THERE.</div> <bR> <div>    "I'm miserable, I hate it, I cry all the time, I'm afraid for my kids and I don't have any money to move".</div> <bR> <div>                 WOW, THIS IS A BAD SITUATION, WHAT DO YOU NEED IN ORDER TO MOVE?</div> <bR> <div>     "I need more money and a better job, and for my ex not to hassle me, and for the kids to listen to me"</div> <div>                </div> <div>                 FULL PLATE THERE, HOWEVER, IF YOU REALLY WANT TO MOVE, YOU'LL FIND A WAY.              </div> <bR> <div>     "Yeah but....... I can't......."</div> <bR> <div> This dialogue goes on for as long as both parties want it to.</div> <bR> <div> Kids are experts at avoiding doing something they don't want to do.  Adults often however, go into deep denial that it's because they DON'T want to do something that it's not getting done.  Or they don't know how to start.... Or it seems too difficult to do anything but whine about it.</div> <bR> <div> Often, people get caught up in something they are doing..... whether it's having a great time with friends, or having a miserable time waking up and facing the day.  It's very easy to have so much negative energy in one's life that there appears no "easy" way to change it. That seems to be when the Bunny Yeah But is most likely to move in...... And they are very high maintenance creatures....</div> <bR> <div> Now, we all know that the only way to finish something, be it the dishes, or changing your life, is to BEGIN.  There has to be a beginning, an action, a move in the right direction in order to get the dishes done, OR to change your life!</div> <bR> <div> Situations are meant to change, just as people are meant to grow.  However, we do need to take a more pro-active role in taking these steps.</div> <bR> <div> For many, the whining stage that feeds the Bunny Yeah But, is a way to actually voice the need for change.  They aren't ready for advice, they don't even really hear it, they just need someone to validate what is being said.  During this incubation of the young Bunny Yeah But, everything that is suggested is just too darn much work to do..... When breathing is difficult, how can someone ask you to also save money for a major move, or leave an abusive relationship?  It's almost THREATENING, at this point, for common sense advice to be shared!</div> <bR> <div> For the person giving the advice, this can be most frustrating.  (or for the mom... how many times do you ASK a kid to clean their room, before you either just do it yourself to avoid the issue, or get into Mean Mommy Mode and ORDER the room to be cleaned NOW?)</div> <bR> <div> Self-pity for having difficulties in life is not a crime.  At least one is acknowledging that the Self is involved in this process. However, self-pity parties, table for one, please, can become a life long habit, as the Bunny Yeah But grows bigger and bigger and has more "needs" before it can be transformed.</div> <bR> <div> It's why, even people who win huge sums of money in a lottery or whatever, often end up in bad shape in only a few years.....  There's few of us who don't believe that having unlimited wealth would end the worst of the problems........ but do many of us actually know HOW to handle it once we have it?</div> <bR> <div> The late Gilda Radner, an extraordinary comedienne, in her character as Roseanne Rosannadana, wisely said "It's always something".......</div> <bR> <div> Can you accept the concept that there will always be "something" that needs to be done before a desired result can happen?  And that you are the only one who can do much of it....</div> <bR> <div> The Universe doesn't want anybody to suffer; God doesn't wake up every morning, to check the list of "who needs to suffer today".  But the saying that God Helps Those Who Helps Themselves..... is like an ANTI-BUNNY YEAHBUT...............</div> <bR> <div> Can't say "Yeah, but......" Without also acknowledging that something has been said, heard, and then put aside as less important than what you are currently doing.  If what you are currently doing IS Suffering... you have made a clear statement of your values here; change the values, change your life.</div> <bR> <div> Stop feeding the Bunny Yeah But.  Becoming CONSCIOUS of the times you say it!  WORDS HAVE POWER.  If you simply refuse to allow yourself to even SAY "Yeah but" for say... one month....... (or change it, to I hear you but I am not ready to do anything), and see what happens.  It doesn't take long of starving the Bunny Yeah But before he just plain moves out and finds someone else that is willing to become his slave.........</div> <bR> <div> Another step in taking responsibility for this life you are living, and removing one of the obstacles you yourself placed in your path....</div> <bR> <div> Peace,</div> <div> Galen</div> <div> 07/14/01 </div> <bR> <bR> <bR> </td> </tr></table></body>